’Tis the season of setting big goals and resolutions for ourselves.
But if you're like many people, doing this might not really resonate with you—or really help you live the life you want. You aim too big or too small. You don't reach the goal by the time you wanted and feel disappointed in yourself. Or you just generally feel stressed out about achieving those goals—and it's no fun.
Danielle LaPorte felt the same way—until she discovered an amazing new way to go about living the life she wanted. Instead of creating a list of things she wanted to do this week, this quarter, or in her life at large, she decided how she wanted to feel and based all of her decisions off of that. In the video below, she explains how you can go about setting your own "core desired values" and living a life with less stress and more of what you love.
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Consider this: Only 8 percent of the population will achieve their New Year’s resolution.
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So why do we keep writing resolutions year after year expecting different results, despite the high failure rates? Sounds more like Einstein’s definition of insanity.
Most of us fail to achieve our resolutions because unless we establish a clear and precise picture of who we want to be and what we want to do or have, it will never come to pass. You’ll keep on drifting aimlessly in your self-fulfilling prophecy, settling for who you see you are instead of believing in who you can become, never realizing your full potential and eventually giving up on your resolutions before you reach the finish line.
Aren’t you ready for a fresh approach this year?
It starts by creating a vision of who you want to become. Seeing is believing, so walk by sight and believe that your best days are ahead of you. Ready?
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1. Picture your future.
Anyone who’s achieved anything in this world started with a vision. Create a picture of who you’re becoming, not who you are today. Think of who you want to be and what you want to do or have. Imagine what it would look, feel, sound, taste and smell like. Snap that photograph of yourself according to your vision.
2. Focus on your potential.
Whatever you focus on expands, so shift your focus on your potential and the upsides of life, not your problems and the downsides. Seeing is believing, so now that you can see it, you can believe in the person you’re becoming. That picture becomes the new point of focus, your target, your measurable destination. Now you know exactly where you’re going.
3. Stick with it.
Keep your eyes on the prize. Never let your environment, other people’s beliefs or the limits of what has been done in the past shape your decisions. Even in the face of doubt or controversy, stick with it no matter what. Do not give up regardless of the difficulties you will face.
4. Walk in the direction of your vision.
Now that you know where you’re going and who you’re becoming, take daily action in the direction of your vision until you pick up momentum. Think of your vision as your destination and take steps in the direction of your vision.
5. Be it.
All the cumulative actions, thoughts and behaviors will lead you in accomplishing your journey to be the person you created in the photographs. Live it.
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Pazit Perez
Pazit Perez helps people create the highest, grandest, most extraordinary vision for their life. She believes you become what you believe. She’s Canada’s first law-of-attraction photographer, owner and founder of Phototherapy® and the #loveYOURSOULfie movement. She’s been featured on Breakfast TV, Passion CJAD800, Wise Woman Canada, Ask Diana and MTLBlog’s “The Most Boss Babes in Montreal.”